New Coffee Shops and Old Friends

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Today I went to a new coffee shop in downtown Lafayette with one of my old friends. We chatted about our lives but then went into a long discussion about what we want to do in the future and how all we really want to do it help others.

It was a very enlightening talk and made me feel like maybe I was understood by someone. I forgot how great it can be to try a new coffee shop, or restaurant and just experience something with someone you don’t get to see very often.

We have now decided that every Monday we are going to get together and do something new in Lafayette or West Lafayette. I thank you Sara for helping me live and always just being a bright light in my life.

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New Music Monday

1/15/2018

Happy New Music Monday!!!

Here’s this week’s list of top 5 songs that I just could NOT stop listening to.

  1. superlit by gnash, Imad Royal

Mood: Chiiiillll

This song is just that laid back hangin with friends or cooking food kinda song. Listen to this is you are kinda down about someone in your life and you just need a bit of a pick-me-up.

2. Real Friends by Camila Cabello

Mood: Mellow

I definitely found myself singing along to this song while getting ready in the morning. A great song for just laying in bed and staring at the ceiling.

3. Rain Clouds by OverEasy

Mood: Motivating

I just feel better when I listen to this song. It makes me want to sit on a park bench and just watch the people walk by and just really focus on myself in that moment.

4.  Stay Young by Mike Perry

Mood: Advanturing

This song help you get up off the couch and out. Really just all about staying young and living in the moment. It makes you want to get out, maybe go hiking and just explore the world.

5. Spaceship by Andy Grammer

Mood: Happy

It might seem a little basic but I do very much love Andy Grammer. His songs just make he happy and this one is no different. The song is all about his wife and how she is pregnant and it just has some of the cutest lyrics.

I hope you like this week’s round of new songs! They really helped me get through the week and I hope they can add something special to your Monday. Also don’t forget to follow me on Spotify on the sidebar!

Stu-dying

Since I am a college student and have been for awhile the concept of studying is ingrained in my brain. All I talk about is how I need to study or how I should be studying and so on. The feeling of needing to be studying is never ending and I just feel guilty if I’m not.

The thing is though is that I hate studying. I love to learn, I love learning new things but the concept of attempting to memorize and practice the same thing over and over just seems so tedious.

When do you stop studying? When do you no longer feel like its taking over your life?

In school I lost who I am as a person because all I would do is study. What do I like to do for fun? What are my hobbies?

I understand school is important and I love learning, but I hate studying. I hate the idea that I’m going to be tested and quizzed on what I can memorize. Studying has taken the fun out of learning and I hate that.

I want to become a teacher to show kids that learning new things can be fun, it doesn’t have to be painful and unenjoyable. I want to show kids there are so many different ways to learn things and grow rather than doing homework and just repeating problem after problem.

Really, I just can’t wait for the day when I can stop studying, when I can stop being tested, and when I can go back to loving learning.

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Mid-Month Update – January

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So at the beginning of the year I said I would start meditating for at least 10 minutes a day. I can’t say that I have actually done this everyday however I have been more mindful in more moments.

When I have negative feelings, I take note of them, I breathe and then I think of something I am grateful for. Sometimes I think of the music I am listening to and how much I love to dance to music. Sometimes I think about my best friends, the people who I know I can call anytime and they will love and care for me and how much I care for them. Sometimes I think about how healthy I am, that I am happy to have two legs on my body to walk to class.

When life these last two weeks has felt a little overwhelming, I stop, I breathe, and I think of how amazing it is that I am here right in this moment. How happy I am with the person I have become and how I would never change what has happened for anything, because I would not be here, in this moment, right now.

Just the idea of mediation, of being more mindful in the moment, has changed my life and my attitude drastically. I don’t want to complain, I want to be happy, and I want to make other people feel happy and loved.

I’ve reflected a lot on what I think I want to do with my career. I don’t know what my dream job is, honestly I could probably do most things and be happy, but I’ve learned the way I want to live my life. I want to live with love and to live for love. I want to care for the people around me first, I want to help them achieve their dreams, I want them to be happy.

These last two weeks has showed me the depth of empathy. There is so much happiness to be felt when the people around you are happy and there is so much love to be given when they aren’t.

I hope you take a second now to breathe deep and think about what really matters in your life. Is what you want in life really what is important and what you need? Are your relationships deep and strong or are they shallow and fleeting? Is what you’re doing with your life your passion, or are you purely living the life you were told to live?

I hope I was able to entertain you with this story and I hope you take it to heart and look deep within.

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“Wow You’ve Changed”

Often I’ve heard the phrase “wow you’ve changed” and it’s always said in a negative tone of voice. Like yes, I have changed and THANK GOD that I have. It’s a beautiful thing to learn and grow from your experiences, if you’re not changing then you’re just stuck, you’re static.

When I tell old friends that I am vegan they go “wow you’ve changed” and well, I have. I used to love meat, I loved adding cheese to everything and it’s not that I just stopped liking the taste of it all, I just learned and grew. I learned the cruelty behind that industry and decided to make a change and some people think it’s crazy but how else is anything going to change unless we ourselves change.

Sometimes it might seem like you’ve changed to others but really you’re finally just embracing who you really are. Maybe we never really change who we are, it’s just the view of who we are changes. With that mindset, we are always just changing into who we are supposed to, we aren’t changing who we are going to be, we just moved on from who we were.

I love when people make changes in their lives. The only way to truly live is to boldly make decisions in what you do. Maybe they are mistakes, actually, you should hope they are mistakes. When you succeed, what do you gain other than a larger ego? You can’t even say you become more confident because it’s a fleeting confidence. True confidence comes from walking into a room and not knowing that you are smarter or prettier than everyone else, its walking in and not caring whether you are, because you love who you are.

Lastly, change can be amazing, but I hope that you always change for yourself. Never let the wants and desires of someone else change who you are. Never lose your true self in changing for another, because they are always going to want more, take more, and at the end of everything you’re lost because you don’t know yourself.

I hope you make changes, I hope you experiment with who you are, I hope you try new things and never let other judge who you are or want to become. And overall, I hope you are able to live more than a static life.

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The Problem with Schools

What is the most important thing kids learn in school? Is it math? Or english?

Why isn’t there a class taught for “how to interact with others” or “how to make a positive impact on society” or “how to understand and love yourself”

Some of the smartest people I know (by school standards) don’t know the first thing about understanding another person’s feelings. They don’t have any intuition for what someone might be thinking or feeling, and the worst part is they don’t care.

Why do people want to beat other people. I understand the spirit of competition but why do you want someone else to lose, to do worse than you? So you feel better? It just makes me feel worse that someone else failed.

Now by no means do I think people we should all be considered winners. Quite the contrary really, I want people to realize that it’s perfectly okay to fail, to not win, to be happy that someone else did well.

People get so caught up in winning that they will do a lot of things that ethically maybe they wouldn’t do. Where is the line of trying to win and hurting others to do it and thinking selfishly. It’s hard to fail, it’s not fun, but every time I have I remind myself that I wouldn’t have done anything differently. Sometimes your friends and family have to come first, maybe your own health comes first, or maybe its your moral integrity.

In schools, all we teach is that you must succeed, you must win, life is a competition. But, what about how to understand your friends, what about learning empathy, what about learning who you are as a person. School has become learning the facts, but facts can be google. Google can’t explain to you why your boyfriend broke your heart, why children don’t listen, or why your best friend is mad at you. It can’t tell you how to help, and be there for others when they are having a hard time. School should be focused on so much more than learning that the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell. It should focus more about understand yourself, your emotions and actions, and the world.